Thursday, March 29, 2012

Week 36

I never realized just how hard it is to sleep at this stage.  Of course I knew that sleep would be a rare commodity AFTER the baby gets here – and if I didn’t know that, I have an abundance of people who are eager to remind me of that fact.   [Pushes sarcasm button] - who knew that newborns didn’t sleep though the night??? 

Nursery pictures:

We’re doing Eric Carle decorations – an author best known for books such as The Very Hungry Caterpillar and Brown Bear, Brown Bear, What Do You See?  All we’ve done so far is buy a book of tear-out art from his books and a set of ABC cards that Mike painstakingly hung on the wall.  This is where I’m glad that ONE of us is so exacting and precise, because it would NOT have looked as good if I had done it!  All that measuring would have made me want to lie down.  The focal wall in the nursery is still blue from its days as a guest room, but that is fine with us. 

 37 Weeks!

Monday, March 26, 2012

An Open Letter to Anyone I Talk to on a Regular Basis

Dear Friend,

We are coming down to the final weeks of my pregnancy.  Soon, God willing, I will have a baby boy to hold and love, and we look forward to welcoming him into our family, giving him a name, and raising him up in the way he should go.  But we all know what has to happen first, and it’s often a subject that our society treats with either humor or horror.  And it’s what I’d like to write about now.

Sometime over the next month or so, I will be giving birth.  I have not written about the choices I have made surrounding planning our birth because I didn’t want to open myself up to condemnation.  Giving birth is such a strange thing in that no matter what you decide, you tend to bring condemnation upon yourself from the two extremes – the “granola crunching hippies” who think you should stop weeding your garden long enough to squat in the melon patch and catch your own baby, AND the “anyone who even thinks about doing this without an epidural is crazy” crowd who think elective c-sections are a gift straight from Heaven.  Both sides will think you either have gone too far or haven’t gone far enough.  So all you can do is make the best decision for yourself and not worry about what others think.  Easier said than done!  Of course these are the two extremes, which not everyone falls into, but they do tend to be the most vocal.

Anyhoo, if you know me even a little bit, you know that I don’t decide on anything in my life without giving it a lot of thought.  Some might even call me an Overthinker, and they would be right.  You may also know that we waited and prayed a long time for this baby, so I had a lot of time in which to do research and think about what I wanted from my pregnancy and birth experience.  And I decided that when my time comes, I would most like to give birth in the presence of midwives and my husband, with a hospital nearby in case of an emergency.  If you ever want to know more about how I came to this decision, I will be glad to meet you for a cup of tea (even if it’s over Skype) and talk with you about it.  According to the ob/gyn who treated the endometriosis that resulted in a long wait to have this baby,   I am a perfect candidate for such a situation – low risk, healthy, and young.  She released me to a group of very well-known midwives confident that I would be getting the best of care.  I am very confident that I have made the best decision for my own safety and that of my child, and I don’t feel the need to defend it to anyone who feels otherwise.  

I have sat down to record my thoughts on this subject many, many times and every time I have given up out of frustration.  I wasn’t sure how to write about my own decision without condemning those who choose to give birth differently than me.  But what finally spurned me to write this was that I need something from you.  I have found that many people want to talk about birth, but they either want to joke about it or tell you how hard it is.  I personally have not found either of those approaches helpful.  I understand that birth makes a great episode for a TV sitcom, and I also realize that it WILL be hard, but when I find myself staring at something as daunting (yet rewarding) as natural childbirth in the face, I find myself in need of a lot of encouragement, prayer, and NOTHING ELSE.  This is happening.  It’s not a joke to me, it’s real life.  So I am asking youthis:, if you want to support me, let encouragement and prayer be your first two options, and leave the jokes and negativity at home.   And if you don’t know what to say, don’t say anything.  Sometimes a hug, and smile, or a hand squeeze can speak much louder than words.  And I hope that (sooner rather than later) I will be able to share my baby boy with you and thank you for your support.


Jacki Wolfe, mamma to be

Thursday, March 22, 2012

Week 35

I am definitely feeling the effects of being “great with child”!  We went to IKEA to get a dresser for the baby’s room, and I was reminded once again of how very pregnant I am.  After we got into the car I said to Mike, “I feel like I’ve been walking around Disney all day!”  My legs felt like they were going to fall off, all from walking around IKEA for an hour!

One thing that has changed lately is that I get hot a lot more easily than I used to – especially at night.  Our bedroom feels like an airport runway because I have so many fans going!  

I heard another mom describe this stage of pregnancy as “Swiss Cheese Brain,” and it is so true!  Most days I just can’t seem to think straight and make a lot of silly mistakes.  I just about ruined my food processor because I forgot to take out the chopper while trying to use the grater.  I also had a big scary moment where I thought my blood pressure was really high, but it turned out to be a result of my inability to use our blood pressure monitor properly – the one I have used many, many times before!  Duh.  

 36 Weeks!

Thursday, March 15, 2012

Week 34 

We had a great checkup this week!  The baby got the hiccups during his exam, which was so cute!  I wouldn’t have known what they were without being told, so I’m glad he got them when he did!  We are still measuring right on track, and his heart and my weight are right on target too.  I am having some problems with my feet and ankles swelling (usually only the left one – weird, right? I’m told it’s because he tends to hang out on the right side of my stomach – who knew??)  I am under strict orders to spend time with my feet up every day.  I can also tell a big difference if we go out to eat, which I’m sure is due to increased salt intake.  Baby also got the hiccups later in the week, and Mike got to feel them that time.

Right after our checkup, I went to the chiropractor that works with my medical providers.  She works with pregnant women and babies and has a 5-month old baby herself, who slept in an infant backpack while her mom treated me  :)  I really liked Dr. Erin – she asked lots of questions and spent a lot of time setting up the adjustments she did on me.  She also knew lots of ways to adjust that work better on pregnant women.  When I walked out of that office I felt SO much better – sometimes I feel that no matter how hard I try, I get “the waddle” due to the muscles in my lower back being so tight, so it was a triumphant feeling walking out of there almost normally!  I would recommend chiropractic care to any pregnant woman, just for feeling more comfortable throughout pregnancy.  She also did some adjustments to the sacrum and lower hip areas which will encourage the baby to STAY head down instead of spinning around like a monkey!

35 weeks!  This picture was taken just before we left for St. Augustine for a baby shower hosted by Mike’s parents.  We got to see people that have watched Mike grow up, and it was such a blessing for us!

Friday, March 09, 2012

Week 33 

We’re busy getting the nursery ready as our due dates zooms closer!  As of now the furniture is in place but it’s not really decorated.  Sometimes I feel like time is moving so fast that I wonder if we’ll be ready in time for the baby to come, and other times it seems like a very long time to still be pregnant!  But I’m so glad that I’ve chronicled this journey.  

One big thing that happened this week was that we had our first baby shower!  It was held by our church family.  We had a luncheon first, and then we enjoyed fellowship together while we opened presents.  

 Check out the cupcakes!  Cute AND delicious!

 Part of the very talented cupcake making team!  A storefront will be opening in The Villages this year, check them out:

Two of the "zombies" from our photo shoot, plus their host mom.  They are foreign exchange students from the Republic of Georgia and Brazil, and also very talented actresses  :)

Gator gear for the newest little Gator!!

 With our Sunday School leader who was kind enough to coordinate everything!   

 We were so grateful for the generosity of our church family!  One of my personal favorites was the Star Trek-themed feeding set from a fellow Trekkie friend.  The fact that it came wrapped in tinfoil was an added bonus - I guess bachelors don't keep wrapping paper in the house!

34 weeks!  When I look back on our weekly pictures I can see that my hair has changed almost as much as my stomach! 

Friday, March 02, 2012

Attack of the Zombies

So we were sitting in a field on a lovely day, reading a book, and this is what happened:


Just a zombie attack, which we fended off with a machete and a baseball bat.  No big deal. 

The End.

Or is it???? 

DUN DUN DUN.......